THIS IS GONNA HURT ME MORE THAN YOU

“BULL CRAP”…this is what all of us probably were thinking when we heard this from adults as we were growing up! However, now that I am a mother, I concur. Executing tough love to anyone hurts us mentally and emotionally. Good Lawd, it’s even more difficult when we have to do this with our own seeds.

In spite of everyone around me telling me that I was wrong, there were times I had to cancel Christmas, not celebrate birthdays, enroll in private school in the wilderness, sit’em on the bench and take away all things used for entertainment. Believe me when I say, these weighed heavily on my heart. No good parent wants to see their child hurt or disappointed.
Not so long ago, I had to push one of my birds out the nest. People questioned his maturity and his competency levels. At first, I felt a little guilty. I started to second-guess my decision. Then I thought of all I had done to prepare him for this. I had prayed and planned for years.

First, I made sure he attended church. This taught him how to have a relationship with Jesus. Next, I sent him to a private school in the wilderness for a school year. He learned to survive and weather the seasons, literally. He listened to me and joined the National Guard. This was to teach him a trade along with coping and life management skills. In addition, along the way, I taught him how to survive domestically. He learned to clean, cook and pay bills. I enrolled him in all programs that I thought would help him mentally.

My Two Birds

I gave him a deadline and brought boxes home. When that day came, I was one elated mother. Please don’t think I thought of him as a burden (although, my grocery bill might decrease). My oldest birdie was getting ready to face the world. He had the lessons and experience. Now, we had to see if he could fly alone (not really alone, Jesus has him covered). Yesterday, he called to tell me that he landed a job. Wow, I really do know my child. It was hard for me to stop carrying him, yet I knew it was time for him to take flight and start his own journey.

I know he will make mistakes. He is welcome to come back home if he really…really…needs to (shhh, don’t tell him that). Although it was a tough take off, I believe he will soar high and have a smooth journey. One down…one to go!

Psalms 139:9

9 If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea;

10 Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.

(My favorite bible verses)

In all things pray and seek the Lord. Allow Him to help you make decisions-not Kooley! These are just my thoughts, opinion and experiences.